Developing Social Skills
Social skills are the techniques which are used to communicate and interact with people whether verbally or through gestures. The way we communicate is very important to let others interpret a situation. Often we communicate through our body language, tone and reactions. All such things are a part of our social skills.
Your social skills can benefit you in interesting ways. When you meet new people, get along with your job and relationships, and prosper in your career. Some individuals are naturally blessed with the ability to interact freely with people, others find it difficult to adapt to social skills.
However, lack of good social skills can make you feel lonely and depressed. Given that you want to connect with different people, socialize and meet your social needs but something restricts you to take an initiative.
But like any other set of skills; social skills can also be learned and adopted.
Some of the common examples of social skills are listed below:
- Staying calm in social situations is also a social skill. To convey your message effectively you need to relax and focus more on delivering your message. Consciousness, nervousness, anxiety are all barriers to staying calm.
- Learn to polish your listening skills. When communicating with someone try to listen to them to learn what they have to say. This involves participating in the conversation, asking relevant questions if necessary or at least maintaining comfortable eye contact. This is a way to show interest in a conversation.
- Reflecting gestures, interest, language, tone and speech is a way to engage in a comfortable conversation. You don’t have to mimic someone but mirroring and matching maintains connection.
- Limit personal views and self-disclosure. It is good to talk about yourself a bit but not every conversation should have your personal input.
- Part of the social training pack is maintaining eye contact with the person you are talking to. Do not stare into him/her; but not maintaining eye contact generally shows lack of interest, ignorance, untrustworthiness and not appreciating the look of the person in front of you.
Social skills are goal directed. A person may use more than one type of behavior in a social situation for the same goal. The goal can vary from being personal to professional depending on the audience for social interaction. And as mentioned earlier, social skills are more than just verbal communication so our behaviors are the best judge of what we wish to communicate.
Having well developed social skills are ideal to solve social problems. It gives you an edge over others in various situations. Some advantages of social skills are;
- Better relationships: you can easily get along with people when you develop good social skills. Making more friends, getting a better job or even a promotion based on your skills is a desirable aspect. Once you learn to eliminate stress from your life resulting from lack of social skills, there are greater pathways in front of you.
- Communication: teamwork is an important aspect of social skills. It is not only desired at work but also as a student when you are being trained to work in diverse environments. Working with a single thought process and idea will not boost your confidence.
- Good social skills will help you avoid people you don’t like: If you know how to communicate, you can politely convey your dislikes and get away with situations and people you wish to avoid.
- Demand for a people’s person: social skills helps in advancing your career prospects by making you eligible to requirements in demand. Most organizations look for a person with a good set of skills, flexible nature and ability to work in teams. Social skills help you transform into the person people demand for; thereby increasing your chances to get a respectable job.
Developing social skills involve a great deal of homework. However, the results are certain. Assertiveness is a skill which can prove to be fruitful to achieve your desired level of social skills. Relating yourself to people more genuinely and having control over your actions can eliminate the feeling of helplessness and benefits your way of communication.